And he would basically manipulate her through fear.
And I knew that guys would work games like that.
You know, where they would either be physical,
or they would manipulate through mental means where it's like,
hey, you know, they were looking at a girl or whatever and tell her, their date or their wife and tell her
that she wasn't pretty enough or she wasn't, that she wasn't going to be around much longer, or they would flirt and make her feel very, very insecure.
Because the whole game was that you keep the girl or woman off balance so that she never knows whether you like her or not.
And this was, this was stuff that was told to me when I was a kid, that when I was dating, they were like, hey man, you got to have game.
You got to do this thing.
But men tend to be manipulated through pride.
And pride is what is the lifeblood of toxic masculinity.
When guys are always like, hey man, I bet you, you won't do this, and I bet you I will.
And the whole thing, it's about, you know, the challenge, you know, if you ever see five men walking somewhere, they're probably on their way to do something really stupid.
I'm just telling you because there's nobody there to calm them down.
And let me tell you something.
The perfect example of toxic masculinity I can give is let's say you have a restaurant, and a restaurant has a sign in the bathroom.
And it says, hey, all employees must wash their hands.
But you notice when the boss comes in, who's a man, and if the boss is a guy, he's going to come in and you notice the boss never washes his hands.
And so, he goes in, he goes in the kitchen and he's touching the food.
He's doing his thing.
And employees are like, man, I don't think the boss ever washed his hand.
So, what happens is somebody has to tell him, and it's usually the manager and they tell the manager to go over there and tell him and the whole deal.
And all of a sudden, the manager goes over to him, he says boss, I'm so sorry, we noticed you didn't wash your hands.
Could you please wash your hands?
And the boss says: ‘Oh, thank you for telling me, you're fired.’
Then all the employees immediately know, never ever confront the boss about anything.
Now you have slipped into a toxic environment, very, very slowly.
All the employees are now behind enemy lines.
Now they are, if you ever, ever come up to the boss and say anything to him, you are now at risk.
You are now a problem that needs to be eradicated, instead of an employee that has good suggestions.